Sunday, April 10, 2011

Just Can't Escape It...

You know how there's been a ton of attention lately regarding cyber bullying (rightfully so). They say that cyber bullying is especially painful because it creeps into people's homes when, prior to our age of internet and chat rooms, the home was basically a sanctuary from the world. So it's especially insidious. I am not being bullied. I am NOT even comparing this to cyber bullying because it's basically my fault and because it's not something being *done* to me, it's what I am doing to myself. I use the cyber bullying analogy loosely to discuss the "everyone's pregnant" phenomena that is currently happening in my life.

It's happening at work. It's happening with friends. It's happening with acquaintances. It's happening with people I don't even care for....and now it's happening in my Play Room online forum. I can't escape it-even on the internet in my own home (which must be how some people feel about being bullied online-but on a much larger and significant scale)!

Now, I don't get to go into my PR that often. Between work and Dan and Alex, I just don't have the time I used to while I was on my maternity leave. But I have a feeling I may be there even less. Not because I don't like the women there-but because I have begun *counting* who is pregnant and who is not. This is not a good sign. This means I am getting into that mode of being preoccupied with NOT being pregnant. I need to cut myself off at the knees because it's a very slippery slope from being like this to crying every month when AF arrives. I really don't want to go there just yet...

I just wish I had a crystal ball that I could look into. That way I would know for sure whether we were going to have another baby. Either way, I think knowing would end this limbo. And I hate limbo. I remember saying that it was one of the worst things about ttc the first time around. Even if the answer were no, I would be heartbroken, but I would grieve and hopefully move ahead with a different plan. And if that same crystal ball showed us having another child, then I could just chill, wait, bide my time and not carry around this worry. Ahhhh, if only life were so neat.

 It's finally nice enough to hang out on the deck!

 Check out our Craig's List deal! Alexandra LOVES it!


Hanging out in her club house


  1. I wish we could just have a girls night where we could just talk about all this and get it out of our systems. I feel the same way. I feel like everyone is getting pregnant, and it's weird because I am not jealous *OF* them at all, infact, for the most part am happy for them. It just makes me feel uncomfortable and uneasy about my own circumstances. I worry that I am going through all of this, saving up all this money for IVF or putting my hopes in expanding our family in another way- only to have it potentially bust. It is so scary, but if you think about it, these are all the same emotions we had when we ttc #1, and look at us now! The fact is this, getting pg isn't EASY, but there really isn't anything that terrible going against us. It just takes a little extra work and time. The odds are that if we really desire to have another child- we will. It will just cost a little more financially and emotionally. But if we fight long enough we will win. There really isn't any reason you wouldn't!

    Who cares if other people are pregnant, you will be there soon too! When it is right for YOUR family :) Don't worry hun, it will happen. Who needs a crystal ball anyway when you have God.

  2. LOL...that's a good point! We need a ttc w/ma girls night!!!