Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother's Day

Two years ago on Mother's day, I was not yet a mother. I was waiting for my baby. I was about a week away from doing an IUI. That was the IUI where we got pregnant with Alexandra. So much has changed in two years. That year, I was staring into an unknown future. I had no idea how or if our dreams would come true. The year after, I was rejoicing at being a brand new mother on Mother's Day. And now, today, I am chasing around a 15 month old and planning to try for a second baby. Thank God for all of these gifts! Not a day goes by when I don't remember where we came from. Not a day goes by, no matter how hard a day or how stressed I am, that I don't realize what a gift we have been given. I continue to pray to never take Alex, or our life together as a family, for granted.

For those of you whom have yet to meet your babies....this probably all sounds really sappy and it may be hard to read. But please know that we were in your foot steps. I secretly felt like we would never get pregnant. I could not FATHOM my body doing anything correctly such as actually creating a baby, much less carrying and nurturing that baby. I was so used to my body failing me. I really began to doubt my capacity to conceive a baby and to actually make that baby into a healthy human being. It's so very difficult to think positively when you are let down time and time again. And if you are like me, not having control of anything drives you extra bonkers! And sometimes still, I doubt that my body could actually do it all again. But guess what...doubt is normal! Fear is normal! But just because you doubt whether you can actually do it, does not mean you can't! I still look back and am sometimes shocked that it happened for us, that this is our life.

I'm proud to be a mother. But I also carry around a little bit of secret pride that I do not talk about very often. I struggled for a chance to have a baby. I cried. I screamed. I raged when we failed. I went through emotional and physical pain. I endured things that I never thought I would have to endure. If it weren't for my husband, I'm not sure I could have handled it all. There were times that I became so angry at the unfairness of it all, I just wanted to give up and say F*^% you to the world. But I didn't. I kept going. And we got there. So yes, I'm proud of myself, I'm proud of my husband, and I'm proud of all the women who are struggling for their chance to be a mother and find a way to make it happen-even if that way is different from what they had originally expected. It makes me realize how tough we are. We infertiles have grit. And grit and resiliency are damned good things to have in this world. You will get there, one way or another...just keep going!

 Alex presenting me with my Mother's Day gift from she and daddy. Hmmm....from Tiffany's eh??? It's not often I see that blue bag ;)

 I LOVE it!

 Even has a charm with her name on it <3



  1. Thanks for the comments on my blog. Alexandra is beautiful!

  2. Thanks! And thank you for your awesome blog! It's a breath of fresh air! You are doing a great thing for women who are struggling. I know I always feel better after visiting your page.